Friday morning

I'm up late again, assembling playlists for the memorial that's happening day after tomorrow... I guess really it's happening tomorrow, since it's early Friday and not late Thursday. Anway...I've been importing my mom's CDs into my iTunes library and creating two playlists--one for the memorial and one for the reception. This whole week has been a whirl of activity. I've had no time to feel anything, except in the morning when I wake up. I remember my mother saying that there were times during her illness when she'd wake up feeling great. She'd lay there in the magic of early morning, thinking normal morning thoughts: "What shall I do with my day?" and feel a thrill that all was well. She'd get up and turn on the heater, get the paper and start the coffee, feed the cats and then feel all her energy drain right out of her. She'd have to go back to bed before her day had rightfully begun. It demoralized her so.

My mornings this week have had a similar timbre: I awaken in my old room, in my old neighborhood, thinking old early-day thoughts about drinking coffee and reading the paper with my mom. And then of course I remember I can't do that and a melancholy fog steals across the landscape of my spirit. And so I get up and check the list of things to do that day. Yesterday I approved the proof of the program for the memorial, then came home and started scrubbing every room of the house. This place is neater and cleaner even than when my mom was healthy, because then she was too busy living to keep a spotless house. It was neat and clean, but coupons and cut-out articles, old wooden clothes pins, water bottle tops, paper clips and twist ties tended to gather in corners and cubbyholes, and dust collected thick and soft in the dimples of the cane baskets hanging on the walls. As my sister and brother worked to lever weeds from between the pavers out in the yard and tame the hedges, I cleared every corner inside, gathered most of the baskets from the walls and hung my mother's paintings instead, scrubbed the kitchen and bathrooms, washed down the appliances, put out new rugs in the bathrooms and guest towels on the counters, whisked cobwebs from every tall corner. Our dear old house, with its cracked plaster walls and ripple-glass double-hung windows, is ready for my mother's friends.